Teresa Harris, M.Ed., LPC, LPSC
How do we build work ethic in OUR children?
As adults, we can see how our hard work has paid off and realizing that having a strong work ethic gets a person farther in life. We want our children to be successful, and we seek to understand how to nurture their success. According to several research studies, the best way to develop a strong work ethic in children is through chores (Lythcott-Haims, 2015).
In Valliant’s famous longitudinal Harvard Grant Study, he followed Harvard students from their time as undergraduates through adulthood (Lythcott-Haims, 2015; Sobel, 1981). Valliant looked at those who made exemplary achievements during adulthood and found that childhood chores were an essential contributor to their success in life (Lythcott-Haims, 2015; Sobel, 1981). The earlier these participants started doing chores, the more successful they were (Lythcott-Haims, 2015).
Through chores children learn:
- The responsibility of contributing to the work of the household or a team
- Autonomy in performing tasks
- Accountability to meet a deadline and deliver quality work
- The determination to do a job well
- Perseverance when challenges are met
- The value in taking initiate instead of waiting to be asked
Without chores, children miss out on learning how to pitch in and how hard work at tasks may not always be pleasant (Lythcott-Haims, 2015).
As parent’s, we sometimes struggle to determine the age appropriateness of certain chores. To help, below is a list of age-appropriate chores from Kathleen Bechelmann, MD, American Academy of Pediatrics spokesperson and pediatrician at St. Louis Children's Hospital (Bullen, 2014).
Children ages 2-3
- Put toys away
- Put dirty clothes into a hamper
- Wipe up small spills with a cloth or paper towel
- Dust low furniture
- Hang up clothes
- Fold napkins in half and put at each plate before dinner
- Stack books and magazines
- Put shoes away (in the closet or mud room)
- Carry his or her plate to the sink after meals
Children ages 4-5
- Make own bed (pull up the blanket and arrange pillows)
- Water plants using child-sized watering can
- Bring mail inside
- Fill a bowl with cereal and milk for breakfast
- Take utensils out of the dishwasher and put in a drawer
- Wash plastic cups, dishes, and utensils
- Use hand-held vacuum in small areas
- Fill the pet's food bowl (with supervision)
- Match socks in the clean laundry
- Hang up towels in the bathroom
- Help carry light groceries from the car
- Help sort own dirty laundry to be washed (whites, colors)
- Brush the dog or cat with a parent's assistance
Children ages 6–8
- Load the dishwasher
- Set the table for meals
- Put away clean and folded laundry
- Sweep the floor
- Help unpack groceries
- Pull weeds
- Rake leaves
- Empty indoor trash cans/wastebaskets
- Replace toilet paper roll
- Feed the pet (and give it water!)
- Practice simple tricks with the family pet (sit, shake hands, fetch)
Children ages 9 -10
- Walk the dog
- Fix snacks
- Hunt down easy-to-find items in the grocery store with you
- Help wash the family cars
- Brush dog or cat without assistance
- Clean pet cages (dog crate, cat litter box, rabbit or small animal cage)
- Take trash to the curb for pickup
- Sweep floors/porches
- Set the table
Children ages 11-12
- Wash, dry, fold and put away clothes
- Clean the bathroom
- Unload the dishwasher and put away dishes
- Change their bed sheets
- Prepare easy meals (toast, sandwich, scrambled eggs)
- Bathe the pet
- Pick up dog droppings in the yard
- Empty and change the vacuum bag
- Mow the lawn (with supervision)
- Mop floors
- Vacuum interior of the car
Coffee with the Counselor
Dear Harman and Smith Parents:
We would like to invite you again this year to have “Coffee with the Counselor.” This opportunity will allow us to share with you about our school counseling program, build partnerships and work together to best support our students in and outside of the classroom. We want to hear from families and community members, seeking input regarding student needs, issues and how to unite in our efforts to help kids overcome current and future challenges.
Coffee with the Counselor will occur 3-4 times this year. Please join us so we may better serve students and families to grow amazing kids that will undoubtedly make a positive difference in our community and our world.
Sincerely, Teresa Harris & Traci Hummer Oakwood Elementary School Counselors
Wednesday, Sept. 5, 2018 5:30 p.m. @ SMITH Elementary – What is a School Counselor Anyway? What is Oakwood’s Character Education Program?
Friday, November 16, 2018 - 11:40am @Harman School - Helping Our Students (and Ourselves) find Balance
Friday, February 1, 2019 - 8:30 a.m. @ Oakwood Starbucks - Encouraging our Kids (and Ourselves) to Seek Joy, Practice Gratitude, and Be Vulnerable
School Counselors (previously referred to as Guidance Counselors) support all students in grades PreK-12 with academic achievement, social and emotional development and career planning. Ohio School Counselors are licensed and have completed an approved master’s program and an extensive internship. They develop and implement comprehensive school counseling programs that promote and enhance student success by collaborating with families, teachers and administrators.
Resource retrieved from the Ohio Department of Education (8/25/17). For more information on this topic please visit http://education.ohio.gov/Topics/Career-Tech/Caree...
Timber is our character education program designed to help all learners develop the skills necessary for success in today's world.
To learn more about this program, go to our Timber page.
- Character Education
- 504 Case Manager
- Classroom Lessons
- Group Counseling
- Individual Counseling
- Parent Consultation
- Mentor Program
- Tutoring Programs
- Military Kids Club
Positive Behavioral Interventions & Supports
- Be Respectful
- Be Responsible
- Build Relationships
At the elementary schools we practice the 3R's. This language provides common behavioral expectations for all students throughout the buildings. This system is the foundation for the 5R behavioral system in place at OJHS and OHS.
5th and 6th grade students tutor for 20 minutes, one time per week, during lunch, with the guidance of the student’s teacher.
OHS National Honor Society Tutors:
High school tutors work with elementary students after school or during lunch. These arrangements are typically made and overseen by the parents. The list of tutors is available upon request and is updated each fall.
The district provides a list of qualified professional tutors.
The list of tutors is available upon request and is updated each fall.
Military children are a unique group and need support during deployments, moves, and meeting the daily demands of military life. This club is designed to help students stay connected with other military kids. It is intended for students who have an active duty service member in their immediate family (mom, dad, or sibling).
By Trudy Ludwig
1. “STOP!” – ONLY if you feel safe to do so
2. “WHY? WHY? WHY?”
3. GET AWAY / WALK AWAY if you can
4. “SO,” “WHATEVER,” “HUH,” “WHO CARES” (say in a neutral tone)
5. CHANGE THE SUBJECT
6. ACT SILLY OR GOOFY (use humor in a harmless way)
7. TURN AN INSULT INTO A COMPLEMENT – ONLY if you feel safe & comfortable doing so
8. AGREE – ONLY if you feel safe and comfortable doing so
* REPORT HURTFUL BEHAVIOR TO A GROWN-UP YOU TRUST
*NOTE: If a tool doesn’t work, don’t keep using it. If you don’t feel safe using a particular tool (Example: Stop, Turn an Insult into a Complement, or Agree tool), don’t use it. Try another tool instead. These tools won’t end bullying problems and they won’t stop kids from bullying other kids. That’s why it’s very important to encourage children to report bullying to grown-ups they trust and who would be their ally in preventing bullying. Bullying prevention requires adult assistance and support. Bystander peers can make a powerful positive difference as “upstanders” or “hero bystanders” by being inclusive and supportive
Ludwig, T. (2015-2017). www.trudyludwig.com. Ludwig Creative Inc.